My taboos and why
A taboo is not a soft limit with a price tag. These are not offered, at any fee and in any constellation:
- Intercourse and oral sex – more on that below.
- Needles and catheters – they demand medical sterility and training, and they stay with doctors.
- Wrestling – a struggle between equals is a contest. I do not compete with my guests; I lead them.
- Smoking fetish – smoke is not part of how I work.
The list is short on purpose. It covers what I will never do, not everything I might decline on a given day: within the limits we agree, content and intensity remain my decision, and nobody is entitled to a particular practice. Asking repeatedly for something on this list ends the conversation, politely but finally.
No intercourse, no oral sex
No intercourse, no oral sex. That applies to every session – alone with me, with my Dominus, or as a couple – and it does not change with the length of the booking, the size of a tribute or the charm of the request.
What I offer is dominance: control, discipline, restraint, ritual, words, and pain where we have agreed it. People who confuse a dominatrix with something else usually reveal it in their first message, often through abbreviations copied from other portals. I do not reply to those. If you are unsure whether your wish falls on the right side of the line, ask in plain words before you book; a clear question gets a clear answer. Everything I do offer, with surcharges and minimum durations, is listed under prices and booking.
Hard and soft limits
Your limits come in two kinds, and I need to know both.
- Hard limits are things that must not happen at all. They are as binding for me as my taboos are for you. Typical ones: a practice that frightens you rather than excites you, marks that must not be visible, an old injury that rules out kneeling.
- Soft limits are things you are unsure about – curious, but wary. I may approach them carefully, or leave them for another time. They are where trust grows, which is exactly why I handle them slowly.
Write both into your profile in the Safe Room, together with anything about your health that matters: heart and circulation, epilepsy, allergies, injuries, medication. Limits may shift between sessions; tell me when they do. And you do not need to know all of them before your first visit – say what you know, and I start more carefully where you are uncertain. How that first conversation runs is described in your first session; German terms and abbreviations you may meet on listings are decoded in BDSM terms.
Safewords and traffic lights
Before every session we agree a safeword, and when you say it, the action stops – immediately, without debate. Using it carries no penalty. It is not a defeat; it is the reason the game can go as far as it does.
Choose a word that cannot occur by accident. No, stop or please may well be part of a scene, so they are poor safewords. A neutral word – the name of a fruit or a city – works better, as long as you can say it without thinking.
Some guests are used to a traffic-light system: one word for all good, one for slow down, one for stop now. If that suits you, tell me and we agree the words beforehand; the stop word keeps its full force either way. I also check in during the session, so you do not have to wait until something is wrong to tell me how you are.
Signals when you cannot speak
There are moments when words are not available: under a hood during mask training, wrapped in mummification, or simply so deep in a scene that speech has gone quiet. For those moments we agree a silent signal before we begin. Common ones are dropping a small object held in your hand, or a fixed number of taps. Whatever we choose, I keep it in view and treat it exactly like the spoken safeword.
Signals also run the other way. Unusual pain, numbness, dizziness, nausea or the sense that something is not right – tell me at once, with words or the signal, rather than enduring it to seem brave. How much you bear is mine to shape within your limits; your body’s warnings are yours to report.
When a session ends early
A session can end before its time. These are the cases:
- You use the safeword or signal, and the action stops. Whether and how we continue, we decide together.
- You withdraw your consent. It covers only what we discussed and can be withdrawn at any moment, during the session too.
- You are under the influence of alcohol or drugs. Then I do not receive you, or I end the session as soon as I notice.
- I see a safety reason. I may break off at any time if I judge that continuing would put you at risk.
- The rules of the room are broken. That includes photos, video or sound recordings without prior agreement – phones stay off.
Only adults take part; I may ask for proof of age. Couples come at the joint wish of both partners, and each of them consents personally, confirms they are 18 or over and has their own safeword.
Consent, the waiver and German law
I am not a lawyer, and this is not legal advice; it is what every guest agrees to with me. Before any request you accept my consent, health and liability declaration, which is governed by German law. The page offers an English translation; the German text is binding. In it you confirm that you are an adult acting of your own free will, that you have disclosed relevant health conditions, and that you understand the typical effects of the practices we discuss – redness, bruising, strong emotions. Your consent is limited to what we agreed and can be withdrawn at any time. The declaration also states that liability for intent, gross negligence and negligent injury to life, body or health cannot be excluded by law. Booking, cancellation and conduct are set out in my terms.