What a good first message contains
A good first message answers my questions before I ask them: short, factual, complete, and leaving the decision to me. Six things let me place it:
- The format: one hour, the three-hour Intensive, or 45 minutes by video.
- A real date and time rather than “sometime next week”. In the studio I begin daily between 1 pm and 11 pm, an Intensive by 10 pm at the latest; by video between 10 am and 11 pm, Munich time.
- The price, inserted by the calendar, so we start from the same figure.
- What to call you: a first name or initials are enough.
- A short note: whether this is your first time, what draws you, what you rule out. One or two sentences.
- Your confirmations: that you are 18 or over, accept my consent, health and liability declaration, and – for the studio – have booked and paid for the room for exactly that time.
Leave out your life story, a finished script and photographs. Experience, wishes, limits and health matters – heart or circulation, epilepsy, allergies, injuries, medication – belong in your Safe Room profile, where I shape the session around them.
The message, line by line
When you choose a date, the calendar assembles the text; you see it before sending, and a copy button helps if the app does not take it over. In English, with placeholders in brackets:
Mistress Alexa, I humbly request a session.
- Type: [Session · 1 hour · in person / Intensive · 3 hours · in person / Remote · 45 min · video]
- Date: [weekday, date] · [time] (Munich time)
- Place: [Munich / Online (video)]
- With Dominus Alexander Blake – appears only if you ticked that option
- Price: [total from the calendar] (deposit €50)
- Name: [whatever you typed, if anything]
- Note: [your one or two sentences]
- I confirm: 18+, healthy, no relevant pre-existing conditions; consent & liability declaration accepted, with a link to it
- For the studio only: I confirm that I have booked and paid for a room at Studio 60 for the requested time. I will send the confirmation as a screenshot.
Reference: [filled in by the calendar]
Leave the reference as it stands; it ties your message to your slot. The note is yours to write, so draft it calmly. Notes I can work with:
- “First visit. Being held still and spoken to sharply appeals to me; I have never tried impact play.”
- “Intensive, mainly mummification. An old knee injury means I cannot kneel for long.”
- “We met in the spring. I would like to continue where you stopped.”
And notes I cannot: a bare “hey, free tonight?”, a demand for the address, or three paragraphs of fantasy with neither a date nor a format.
How to address me
The calendar message opens with “Mistress Alexa”, and that is right: my name in this role, courteous and unambiguous. “Hey babe”, “hi there” or a pet name are wrong – not because I am easily offended, but because the tone of your first line tells me more about you than anything that follows it.
Herrin, the German word you may have read, belongs in the room, not in the chat. Whether and when you use it is for me to decide; sometimes it becomes part of the session, sometimes Mistress remains. Using it in a first message is unnecessary and replaces nothing.
I lead sessions in English and in German; write in the language you want to hear later. Respect shows in clarity and in waiting for my reply rather than chasing it.
What ends a conversation before it starts
Clumsy sentences and nerves are fine. These close the chat at once:
- Haggling. The price your request shows is the price; surcharges for particular practices are agreed beforehand. How totals are built is explained under prices and booking.
- Trying to buy past a limit. No intercourse, no oral sex, whatever is offered. The rest of my taboo list, and how the safeword works, is under limits and safety.
- Asking me to come to you. I do not travel to guests. Every session in person takes place at Studio 60 in Munich; if you are visiting, you come to me from wherever you are staying.
- False confirmations. Age, health and the room booking are confirmed when you send. Anyone who fibs there ends the matter himself, and I may ask for proof of age.
- Dutch courage. Anyone under the influence of alcohol or drugs is not received.
- Pestering. Three messages in ten minutes do not make my reply faster, only shorter.
I am reached through the calendar on this website; profiles under the same name on other platforms are not mine. My genuine channels are listed on About Mistress Alexa.
After you press send
The decision is now mine. I read every request myself and reply personally in the same chat. A slot that looks free in the calendar is an offer, not a promise; it becomes binding only when I confirm. My confirmation also names the ways to pay the deposit, which secures the appointment and is deducted later. Once it has arrived, you receive the exact address.
Short notice is possible: today and tomorrow sit at the top of the calendar, and any free starting time can be chosen. For a same-day request three things matter:
- The room matches the hour. Because you confirm the booking when you send, check availability with the studio first. How that works, and how to get there, is on the Studio 60 page.
- The deposit follows at once. Without it, even a session three hours away is not secured.
- You stay reachable. Keep the chat open until I have answered; any questions come there.
If plans change, write in that chat at once. Rescheduling means cancelling and sending a fresh request, with a word in the note so I can match your deposit; what happens to it depends on how early you tell me, as set out under prices and booking and in my terms. Moving the room is between you and the studio.
Never done this before? Read your first session before you write; knowing what awaits you lets you arrive calmer.