How keyholding works
A keyholder keeps what you cannot be trusted with: the decision. You wear the device; I own the timing. What changes is not only that you are locked, but that you have handed the right to decide to someone who will actually use it – and that you now report to her honestly.
With me, keyholding is a structure, not a game of chance. Before you lock, we settle three things: what the first period looks like, which proof I expect and when it is due, and what follows if you break a rule. I set the length, inside the limits we agreed. A chastity mistress who forgets you for a week is not keeping anything, so I only take on what I can follow with attention.
Chastity can begin in two places: online, wherever you live, or in person in Munich – and the two can be combined.
In Munich: confinement and the cage
In the studio, chastity belongs to a session of at least 120 minutes; on my list it appears as Inhaftierung und Keuschhaltung – confinement and chastity. The time is needed. We look at the fit of the device together before anything is locked, because a device that does not fit properly is a distraction, not discipline. Then comes the confinement itself: time spent locked and waiting, under my rules and at my pace, inside the session.
The session is charged at my hourly rate, plus the room fee paid to Studio 60, which you book and pay directly with the studio for the full length of your appointment. Which device you use, and whether you bring your own, is something we settle when you request the date. If we agree that it should, keyholding continues online after you have left Munich. The whole picture of my in-person work is on Domina Munich.
Remote: proof and check-ins
Online keyholding works when the rules are simple enough to keep and specific enough to check. Before the first lock I set the form of proof I want and the times at which it is due, and you deliver it without being reminded. A missed check-in is not a technicality; it is the first thing we talk about next time.
I only set rules I can actually verify and that fit into your life. A man who travels for work gets a rhythm that survives airports and hotel rooms rather than one that tempts him to lie. How tight that rhythm is remains my decision, made with your circumstances in mind. My essay on remote control describes how I think about guiding someone at a distance in general.
Video inspections
The strongest proof is my own eyes. In a forty-five-minute online session, the inspection is part of the session: you show me the proof we agreed on, you answer my questions, and I decide what comes next – praise, a task, a longer period or permission to unlock.
Inspections are booked like any other video session, from €180, with a start time between 10:00 and 23:00 Munich time. A sensible arrangement combines regular check-ins with an inspection at intervals, and the interval is mine to set. Beyond what we have agreed, I owe you no attention and you owe me no proof; inside it, both are kept.
Tease and denial
Tease and denial is the short form of the same idea: control of desire within a single session rather than across weeks. Desire is built and withheld on my schedule, not yours, and the session ends when I say so, not when you would like it to. In the studio it is included in the hourly rate; online, it fits into the forty-five minutes.
It is also a good way in: someone who has learnt in one evening what it means to be denied understands what he is asking for when he asks for a keyholder. Orgasm control is the same principle stretched across days; chastity simply makes it physical.
If you share your life with a partner and want chastity to become part of it, a joint session – couples training, from 120 minutes – is possible at the joint wish of both partners, with each of you consenting personally, confirming you are 18 or over and keeping your own safeword. The couple formats are described under mistress and dominus.
Safety: when the cage comes off
Health outranks every rule of mine. Before the first lock you tell me about anything relevant – circulation, medication, allergies to materials, injuries – and you accept the consent, health and liability declaration. If anything hurts, feels numb or seems wrong, the device comes off immediately and you tell me afterwards. Taking it off for your safety is never a broken rule, and the same applies to a medical appointment or any situation in which a locked device would put you at risk.
In a session, the safeword ends every action at once, confinement included. How limits, safewords and stopping work in detail is set out under limits and safety. Keyholding is for adults who have chosen it, and it stops being keyholding the moment it becomes a danger.